Probably one of the biggest challenges in our modern society: dare to remove the mask we have been wearing so far and be ourselves!

As long as we behave according to other people’s expectations, what’s most popular, what we think we should be, what we think men/women like, we are not being true to ourselves. Each time we play a role, pretend we’re somebody we’re not, force ourselves to fit in society’s standards, the result is when we get home alone and face ourselves, we feel terrible.

We want to live a life perceived as perfection but we lie, to others and we lie to ourselves. It’s exhausting, it drains our energy, it makes us suffer deep inside, that’s why most of the time it leads to addictions, eating disorders, and other behaviors aiming at escaping or forgetting who we really are.

We are not accepting ourselves, we are not acting from a place of Love but from a place of Fear: fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear to be different, fear to not be loved, fear to end up lonely. But the body and the soul don’t agree with the mind’s decision to not accept its truth. That’s when the body starts to get sick of it: the cells want Love and they get Fear (that’s when some people develop illnesses like cancer), the soul wants to thrive and express itself, and is imprisoned in a tiny box the mind has created in order to feel safer. But our real safety lies in freedom, true expression and alignment with who we really are. Only then can we thrive and experiment true happiness. Remember, there can only be one You, so be yourself fearlessly.
I know it’s certainly not an easy task. And I’ve been through this before. I always had the feeling that I was different. (And I was…) – During my school years people would think I was weird, because I was not drinking, smoking, dating boys or going out as often as they did (if not at all :) – I would prefer to stay home, draw, write or read… not the most popular or coolest thing to do when you’re a teenager, right? :)

I had big dreams… they could not understand… but I stayed myself. I am glad I was not influenceable at all when I was young, and that I always kept my dreams and my values in mind, no matter what reaction I got from others, even if it has not always been easy. Sometimes I was really feeling I was weird, because of them, but now I know I was not. I was just a little more aware than them, and I felt I had a purpose here. Things to accomplish, dreams to pursue.#

So… if you feel weird or different, compared to people around you, that may be judging you, please don’t sacrifice who you are, to become like others. Because you will sacrifice your mission on earth, your dreams and your life purpose too.

We are all different and we all have different things to accomplish in our life. So we should never compare ourselves to others. Except if it’s to INSPIRE us to get better.

Probably one of the biggest challenges in our modern society: dare to remove the mask we have been wearing so far and be ourselves!

As long as we behave according to other people’s expectations, what’s most popular, what we think we should be, what we think men/women like, we are not being true to ourselves. Each time we play a role, pretend we’re somebody we’re not, force ourselves to fit in society’s standards, the result is when we get home alone and face ourselves, we feel terrible.

We want to live a life perceived as perfection but we lie, to others and we lie to ourselves. It’s exhausting, it drains our energy, it makes us suffer deep inside, that’s why most of the time it leads to addictions, eating disorders, and other behaviors aiming at escaping or forgetting who we really are.

We are not accepting ourselves, we are not acting from a place of Love but from a place of Fear: fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear to be different, fear to not be loved, fear to end up lonely. But the body and the soul don’t agree with the mind’s decision to not accept its truth. That’s when the body starts to get sick of it: the cells want Love and they get Fear (that’s when some people develop illnesses like cancer), the soul wants to thrive and express itself, and is imprisoned in a tiny box the mind has created in order to feel safer. But our real safety lies in freedom, true expression and alignment with who we really are. Only then can we thrive and experiment true happiness. Remember, there can only be one You, so be yourself fearlessly.
I know it’s certainly not an easy task. And I’ve been through this before. I always had the feeling that I was different. (And I was…) – During my school years people would think I was weird, because I was not drinking, smoking, dating boys or going out as often as they did (if not at all :) – I would prefer to stay home, draw, write or read… not the most popular or coolest thing to do when you’re a teenager, right? :)

I had big dreams… they could not understand… but I stayed myself. I am glad I was not influenceable at all when I was young, and that I always kept my dreams and my values in mind, no matter what reaction I got from others, even if it has not always been easy. Sometimes I was really feeling I was weird, because of them, but now I know I was not. I was just a little more aware than them, and I felt I had a purpose here. Things to accomplish, dreams to pursue.#

So… if you feel weird or different, compared to people around you, that may be judging you, please don’t sacrifice who you are, to become like others. Because you will sacrifice your mission on earth, your dreams and your life purpose too.

We are all different and we all have different things to accomplish in our life. So we should never compare ourselves to others. Except if it’s to INSPIRE us to get better.

Get The LESSON Right and Start Doing what's necessary.

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.

I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future.What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, educated, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man."

What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".

Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.(This is why they always fall for the wrong ones who would use and dump them. Then they later carry the "all men are the same saying".) If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity.

The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth.

For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.

I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.

Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.